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thursday49
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 Posted - 07/27/2012 : 18:01:56
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Event: I worked for two weeks scoring standardized reading tests on a computer at a work site here in Austin. I was quite unfamiliar with the company's computer system and frequently (or constantly) called on my young supervisor for help with simple mechanics. When our project ended, my supervisor said to me,"You'll be getting e-mails about different projects we have in the future." I began to work myself up.
Symptoms:  racing fearful thoughts, such as, "Oh he's just saying that. He doesn't want a dinosaur computer operator for another project." Tightening in my jaw, shoulders raising, clenched facial muscles. Impulse to apologize once more for my ineptitude. Compulsive worrying. My racing thoughts lasted about 2 hours.
Spotting tools. I spotted my fearful temper. 'You're interpreting his remarks insecurely." "We nervous people are good observers, but poor interpreters b/c we interpret against ourselves or insecurely. "To know is to know that you don't know if you'll work for this company again. I am endorsing myself now.
B4 RI training, I'd have called him, checked if there were anything more I could do to secure another project work with him. I'd have been in a vicious cycle. |
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Flowbo1
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Posted - 07/27/2012 : 20:36:46
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thursday49 did a good job of changing her insecure thoughts to secure ones. The supervisor may call again, but all she knows is that she doesn't know. She can take the secure thought that he praised her for her work done now. She said in former days she might call him to see whether there is more work for her, and every act of self-control leads to a sense of self-respect. No one can be comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. Comfort is a want and not a need. She is doing things to get well, not waiting to get well to do things. Lots of will to bear discomfort and will to effort, the two wills that help make us well.  |
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anne s.
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Posted - 07/29/2012 : 13:33:47
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I spot for thursday49 that anticipation is often worse than realization. The supervisor said she would call again, but all she knows is she doesn't know. We can lower our standards and our performance will rise.
Self-endorse regardless of outcome. Everyday life is full of irritations, frustrations and disappointments. Nervous patients hate change and abhor routine. |
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Celine
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Posted - 07/29/2012 : 16:23:44
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Thursday was self led not symptom led.
She can drop the judgment against herself and others.
Perfection is a hope, a dream, an illusion.
She had the courage to make a mistake.
Asking for help is a sign of recovery.
We need only our own inner endorsement to be secure.
Do not rehash the past with regret nor look to the future with fear.
Endorse for even the smallest of efforts, not just results.
Celine
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Ninufar
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Posted - 07/30/2012 : 09:20:57
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thursday49's asking questions showed the courage to make a mistake, which is not to say any of these actions were mistaken. In addition to the spotting already done by the example giver and the panel, I'd like to add that some of us have a passion for self-distrust. Possible tempermental lingo in "constantly". We are a capable lot when we don't paralyze ourselves with fear.
thursday49 did not coddle her feelings or her temper. She applied RI methods rather than working up a full head of sentimental self-condemnation steam.  She treated her mental health as a business and not a game.
Thank you for this example. |
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_Gus
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Posted - 07/30/2012 : 18:00:26
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| Anticipation is often worse than realization. Thursday has spotted that all we know is we don't know, thereby lowering her standards and not taking herself too seriously. Very endorsable. She didn't let her temper last very long because temper begets temper. She calmed down deliberately. She shows a big improvement in step 4 showing that knowledge teaches you what to do but practice teaches you how to do it. Thursday49 practices the method and it shows in the gains she has obtained. She replaced an insecure thought with a secure one and avoided the vicious cycle. |
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dimide
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Posted - 08/02/2012 : 00:37:40
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Do not expect to feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation; the writer moved the muscles and functioned in discomfort; Dr Low said that we make our greatest gains when we function in discomfort. Highly endorseable
Drop all judgements against yourself for the sake of your mental health and inner peace. Our supreme goal is our mental health. Lower our standards for ourselves and our performance level will rise.
We are good observers but poor interpreters. To know is not to know; Anticipate securely or not at all. Fearful anticipation is often worse than realization.
The writer should endorse for doing a good job of changing insecure thoughts to secure thoughts and working down fearful temper. 
The writer should endorse for treating mental health as a business instead of a game.
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Tinkerbell18
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Posted - 08/11/2012 : 20:25:07
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| The nervous patient can do the job as well or better than the nervous person. We're a capable lot, but we paralyze ourselves with needless fears. She can endorse for a job well done. She can drop the judgment against herself for the sake of her mental health |
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