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techdiverdown
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 Posted - 06/03/2012 : 13:49:57
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Event was yesterday, the latest series of strange happenings with my family :)
I am traveling very near my mom's house for a business trip, so I called my mom and told her I would be there next week and why dont I stay over and spend some time with her. She mentioned she gave away the spare beds and moved the living room furniture into the spare bedroom, so there is nowhere for me to sleep. Thats when I worked up.
My symptoms were racing thoughts ("Where are my wife and I sleeping if we go down there? Now we have to rent a hotel to see Mom"). Is she losing her mind (She is 76)? I had angry temper and confusion, dizziness and lowered feelings.
I am spotting angry temper at my mother and fearful temper in the form of self-pity.
I am replacing insecure thoughts with secure thought of "this is outer environment, not aiming at me".
To know is not to know, have no idea why mom did this
Its an event, not an emergency
Family is a strong-link
Insecure thoughts are empty threats
Family is our greatest saboteur
What of it?
Stop taking myself so darn seriously
Before recovery I would have made an issue out of it, after recovery I can put this in outer enviroment and choose to work it down and not up.
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rionline
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Posted - 06/03/2012 : 16:54:05
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The event with Mom was definitely a startle.
We are not responsible for our initial response, but whether we choose to work them out or to work them up.
Accept or reject: Possible sabotage of mental health through expectations and disappointments. The writer expected a place to sleep was available and it's no longer there, a disappointment.
There's much to self endorse for in this example.
It's trivial compared to the writer's mental health.
In seeking a solution, the writer may choose to remember flexibility attracts; rigidity repels.
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SandyLane
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Posted - 06/03/2012 : 18:07:29
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Tech is making a business out of his mental health, it is not a game.
Our supreme goal is mental health.
He chose peace over power.
He went for his objective needs over his subjective wants.
Objectivity wipes out emotionalism.
People do things that annoy us but not necessarily to annoy us.
Tech can endorse himself for the improvements made in step 4.
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_Gus
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Posted - 06/06/2012 : 00:05:31
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Tech is excusing and not accusing his Mom for the sake of his inner peace. Aging adults find it difficult to change their routines. She might have had reasons to proceed that way totally unrelated to him.
He chose the secure thought that he can always stay in a hotel. Tech controlled himself leading to a sense of self respect and higher self esteem. He rightly spotted that self appointed expectations lead to self induced frustrations.
He lowered his standards and realized that to know is not to know. In other words, he didn't take himself too seriously. Took the total view that his Mon has many nice traits that overweigh any shortcoming if there was one.
He wore the mask and didn't let his mother notice his feelings toward the situation. Endorse for effort, not only for outcome. |
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anne s.
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Posted - 06/08/2012 : 15:06:31
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Tech can endorse himself for making a business of his mental health. He controlled his speech muscles and didn't complain to his mother. The resoluteness of the muscles overcomes the defeatism of the brain. The closer the family members the stronger the link to sabotage.
Temper must be eliminated because it is the sworn enemy of mental health. Feelings will rise and fall if we don't attach danger. We cannot control outer environment, we can only hope to control our inner responses to the outer environment.
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Tinkerbell18
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Posted - 06/25/2012 : 12:52:53
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| I spot people do things that annoy us, not necessarily to annoy us. We cannot control outer environment, only our own inner environment. Endorse for use of the Method. Endorse for not expressing temper at his mother. |
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