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pmealy
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 Posted - 07/27/2010 : 12:30:33
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Have been in a low emotional state for months now. It is painful, not at all pleasurable. Feel as if my life is hopeless, over. Just want the pain in my head to stop and experience some joy in life.
Symptoms: lots of fatigue and sleeping; lowered feelings, fearful temper, anxiety, etc.
Spot: If we bear the discomfort, comfort will come. Feelings are not facts - the past few months have been filled with much discomfort, but not ceaseless misery. Do things to feel better. Decide, plan, act. Will to bear discomfort. Endorse for effort.
Prior to recovery. Would not have had access to tools to help me out of my own pain. |
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mjkn
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Posted - 07/27/2010 : 19:43:46
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| I spot that PMealy can be self led not symptom led. At times one does not know when the emotional fog will lift but it always does. I spot that in this state it is average to feel hopeless but that doesn't mean that PMealy is helpless. I spot that PMealy can overcome the defeatist attitude depicted by his feelings by moving his muscles and wearing the mask of a solid citizen. During this state of lowered feelings it is average for the world to look joyless but that doesn't mean that it is. It must be remembered that feelings aren't facts. Even though PMealy is feeling discouraged I spot tempermental lingo when he expresses the desire to experience some joy. Lowered feelings colors so much of life but small periods of joy can be found and the cycle of vitality can often begin by appreciating small periods when the uncomfortable feelings aren't so strong |
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Member-Mary
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Posted - 07/27/2010 : 20:14:53
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Recovery teaches to wait with patience. We're practicing indictment if we're not practicing self-endorsement. Waiting with patience is endorsable. Maybe there is some self-importance in thinking we should have lots of joy and happiness. |
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Nevergiveuphope
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Posted - 07/28/2010 : 08:08:47
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| I agree with the first spotting if in a situation feelings are not of the greatest quality it is difficult but as was brought out if we focus on the bits of security it can lead to better feelings. Also were not responsible for the quality of our feelings only what we do and what we think and choose to believe(our will). The muscles will follow the dictates of the will, beliefs are the last thing to change. I'm sorry your feeling so poorly I know it can hurt and be very difficult. Its a harmless expression of a nervous imbalance but that suffering is real regardless to the person experiencing it. Secure thought for generations people in Recovery have gotten through setbacks and lived fulfilling lives and there are so many more things today available to us than when the book was written and Recovery first started. |
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mjkn
495 Posts |
Posted - 07/28/2010 : 16:22:38
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This was passed on to me by a good friend of mine in Recovery and it is worth repeating many times over
Dr. Low never said that we would be symptom free in any of his writings. In fact he said that we should expect them and to expect a set back at any time. What he is teaching us apprentices is a way to live with our symptoms, and to be able to function and live a good average life in spite of them now that we have the tools and the means. We sometimes forget that we were born with a nervous imbalance. If we had any other disorder, let say diabetes we would have to accept the condition, and then apply the means to live an average life.
This is where exceptionality comes in. We may be thinking that Dr. Low said we would be symptom free for life, the perfect cure. What it is telling us is that with training we learn to have control over how we will handle our nervous imbalance, by the use of our will using the Recovery Method of Training. We think that once the symptoms leave they will never return and when they return we think they will never leave. However we know that they are always phasic and not basic. Yet we may still be attaching danger to them which is average till we get to the point of accepting that we are just average nervous patients with a nervous imbalance. In fact he tells us to welcome our symptoms as old friends. He goes on to tell us that symptoms may come on out of nowhere and for no reason. No one said we have to like them, if we liked them that may also make us exceptional….
I was reminded that we never go back to where we were before our Recovery training as demonstrated in the 4th part of our examples.
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Kathleen
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Posted - 08/01/2010 : 12:08:50
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• Learning to ignore the defeatist message of symptoms is a process that takes awhile to accomplish. It is a gradual but well proven process.
• Sensations come of their own account, not at your bidding. You are not responsible for their coming, but you are responsible for their persistence if you fail to handle them in accordance with my instructions." (MHTWT, p. 402)
• With patience and practice we can also take another secure thought that as we become skilled in the RI method and with patience, comfortable feelings are just around the corner.
• Setback / Lowered Tones is it a really a set back or merely lowered tones? And if it is a setback we can ignore the disturbing thoughts, the impulse and sensations and they will run their course in short order. Then we will have fewer poor average days, loads of plain average days and some good average. We can learn to be satisfied. Satisfaction is a nice sensation. It is good enough. MYFMYA
• Nervous fear is the fear of discomfort. MHTWT, Pg 146
• I spot temper at the illness
• Endorse for effort, NOT outcome. Endorse for posting your example, and all the progress that you have made over former days.
I hope pmealy self-endorsed for all his efforts which are vital to our Recovery and no example is complete without it! He is making a business not a game out of his Recovery training.
“Humans have never been known to endorse as they should”.  (Selections Pg 132) |
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Ouch - my head hurts
