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Cassandra79m
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 Posted - 07/26/2010 : 19:11:52
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Hi everyone! I haven't been on here in a while. Are you still there? Thanks for all of your great feedback on the topic of talking too much. I really feel that I have a speech muscle control issue and I have to work on not being an open book. Friends and family have gotten really fed up with me. I have alienated some friends and not really on speaking terms with one. I am learning to pull back and not interact as much. I think in my case, Less is More!
Anyone have any spottings for not talking too much? I usually tell myself to bear the discomfort and comfort will come when I have to urge to interrupt someone too prematurely or have a strong desire to utilize my speech muscles.
I suppose we could say, I command myself not use my speech muscles.
Listening is also an art and there are also pauses in conversation. I also tend to repeat the same things over and over again.
I am also learning to be alone and have a relationship with myself. That is similar to not talking and feeling in symptoms when nobody is around to take the edge off. |
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Kathleen
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Posted - 07/27/2010 : 08:31:14
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• Poor habits can be acquired in a fraction of a second; good habits only in long, protracted training. MYFMYA p. 216 We need to spot that which is deeply habitual.
• When we blame ourselves, the first casualty is our self respect.
• “If you make any reasonable effort (to apply the Recovery Method), then you are not responsible whether the effort was successful or not. But you must make the effort.” Then Endorse, Endorse, Endorse!
• I can’t Dr. Low states means, I care not to.
• Be certain that average persons develop extreme reactions in some field of life.
• Self-appointed expectations lead to self-induced frustrations…………….SEL p.35
• Helplessness is not hopelessness
• A sense of humor is the sovereign means for curing nervous conditions.
• Perfection is a hope, a dream, and an illusion.
• Practice takes patience. |
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Cassandra79m
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Posted - 07/27/2010 : 19:54:13
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| Memorizing and applying the spottings can be a bit difficult. I have a page of spottings that were compiled by a friend. I really have to use it more. I actually saw good results today. I am going to list it as an example, too. Somebody noticed today at work that I was more quiet than usual. That spotting you mentioned: • Poor habits can be acquired in a fraction of a second; good habits only in long, protracted training. MYFMYA p. 216 We need to spot that which is deeply habitual. So very true. Practice, Practice, Practice and you shall succeed. |
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brook
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Posted - 07/28/2010 : 17:15:53
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| Thank you for bring this up. I also have this talking too much. I have tried to be more quiet and then I'm asked by family or friends "whats wrong with you". I have to practice control of the speech muscles also. It was helpful to hear someone besides myself TALK about this pardon the pun. |
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flmiller
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Posted - 07/30/2010 : 08:03:15
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| Talking too much is a sign that we are tense. So anything that helps reduce the tenseness probably also helps reduce the talking. So deliberately slowing down, motionless sitting and spotting calm begets calm would probably help. |
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thursday49
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Posted - 07/30/2010 : 22:43:35
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Cassandra can choose to take the danger out of the excessive talking. It's distressing, but not dangerous, annoying but not abominable. Then watch as the compulsion to over-talk withers like a weed without water. Wow, the alliteration I've fallen into. Wonder if it's dangerous...lol
We strive to be average and only that. Average people frequently talk too much.  |
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