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bigjay_84084
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 Posted - 08/07/2012 : 22:18:21
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Background my daughter is really been getting after me about how she says I treat her dad. She came to visit for 2 weeks and I really had to use a lot of tools the whole visit and didn't want her to come.
Step 1 during the visit we had a few hard times as she got mad at me for saying something to my husband so I decided I need to talk to both of them a few days ago so I asked them to come out side to talk and we started to talk and she said you don't want to hear what I have to say and I said go a head and she said all my life I have had to worry about you if you were coming home or not or if you were going to do something to youself.
Step 2 My thoughts were I knew this was coming , I never meant to be so ill, I wish I could of had someone to tell this to at her age.
feelings fearful sadness, hurt ,guilty, a lot of lowered feelings ( still ). Angry temper in resentment, and also angry at illness. symptoms close to crying tension. Impluse pretty much just to let her get it out and say it for herself.
Step 3 I wore the mask ( ENDORSED)
excused her and myself for my mental health.
I foreign spotted on her ( that she has dealt with alot not just me but her husband now)
choose peace over power.
decide, plan and acting into letting her continue.
I spotted I'm sure this is average.
She is a strong link the stronger the link the more the symptoms and work up.
Objectivity by focusing on my grandkids after it was over.
our feelings lie and deceive us and rise and fall.
there is no danger.
I'm spotting realistic pride in allowing her to express herself.
I'm working on working it down instead of up. Have not complained a lot about it. decide and plan to address it here and with counsler.
I spot group minded by not complaining.
I'm endorsing again.
Step 4 This would of put me into so many symptoms to bed maybe hospital complain to so many, It would of devasted me to the fact I would of believe I was a total failure and the guilt would of been overwhelming.
Any spots would please Help as I'm close to tears have the time and lowered feelings..BUT I'm FUNCTIONING YAY ..sorry for spelling errors |
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thursday49
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Posted - 08/08/2012 : 09:45:49
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We deal in trivialities in Recovery, Int.
The example might be divided easily into several examples (part acts.)
A self endorsed person is a secure person.
 The closer the family member, the stronger the symptoms.
Dr. Low encouraged us to follow the advise of the 'freely chosen physician.'
The writer is a valid person just as she is.  |
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Peacejoy
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Posted - 08/09/2012 : 07:52:36
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Bigjay can endorse for utilizing the method instead of analysing her symptoms. She is self-led rather than symptom led. It is average to be uncomfortable in an uncomfortable situation. Endorse for bearing the discomfort. Endorse for being group-minded. Endorse for the will to mental health.
Bigjay has come along way in her RI practice when you look at before and after. It is not how we feel but how we function. Bigjay did the thing she feared to do by allowing her daughter to express her feelings to her. Bigjay had the will to courage.
As Dr. Low advised us our illness is fate appointed not self-appointed. We are trained not to review the past or preview the future.
Once we have the benefit of being trained in RI, we are responsible for working on our inner environment which is what Bigjay did with courage. Endorse for all your effort.
Inner Environment: Secure thought that we have control over the thoughts & impulses. Feelings rise and fall, impulses can be checked through the command of muscles, sensations run their course and thoughts can be changed through objectivity.
Bigjay can drop all judgment she may have against herself as she has made a business of getting well as her priority in life. For the sake of her mental health she can excuse her dynamic outer environment and work to maintain fellowship with her daughter.
Accept or reject following spotting: Bigjay can take secure thought that conversations like this albeit was very uncomfortable and produced temper is average in the dynamic family life.
It is average for adult children to bring up the past and blame their dynamic environment... especially mothers. Bigjay can also perhaps see this conversation as a partial viewpoint and that we learn in RI that feelings should be expressed and temper suppressed and dropped.
Bigjay can foreign spot for her daughter that by allowing her daughter to express her feelings this may have helped her daughter to drop her temper and a new calm, peaceful,secure relationship may develop between them.
Bigjay can make a firm decision to command her muscles to go forward with peace and security in her life knowing that she is a self-led worthy person who can trust her basic functions. Endorse, endorse for all your effort.
Peacejoy
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JS
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Posted - 08/10/2012 : 08:54:04
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Reply relocated to correct location by moderator. A trivialiy!
:psted by peacejoy
Bigjay can endorse for bearing the discomfort.
It is average to feel uncomfortable in an uncomfortable sitatuion.
We learn in RI to not review the past nor preview the future. We don't blame ourselves for our past actions/behaviors.
Bigjay can endorse highly for working on her mental health and making it a business. Bigjay can look to her own inner environment for endorsement and as in RI we are taught to only compare ourselves to our before and after RI practice.
Accept or reject the following: Conversation and feelings aroused albeit distressing are not dangerous. It is average for adult children to bring up the past issues with their mothers, especially mothers.
Bigjay can perhaps look at this partial viewpoint of t
his conversation in a view of a total viewpoint. We learn in RI that feelings should be expressed. Bigjay can foreign spot for her daughter that her daughter's expression of feelings may perhaps drop the judgment her daughter has been feeling as she was now able to express herself to her mom and a positive secure dynamic environment may begin with daughter.
Best wishes to Bigjay and endorse for the self-control and self-leadership.Endorse again and allow the feelings to rise. Feelings are not facts. This situation is phasic and not basic. It is not how you feel but how you function. Endorse and endorse some more. |
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Tinkerbell18
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Posted - 08/11/2012 : 20:39:46
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| I spot temperamental lingo (total failure) anger at the illness. Feelings can be expressed, expression of temper suppressed, which she did. She can endorse for using Recovery all though the visit to help her drop her temper. |
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