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Kathleen
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 Posted - 12/10/2011 : 21:02:28
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Event- While at work I had made a funny comment to one of my managers and when she responded back she used a off color remark that took me back and that when I got worked up.
Symptoms- Shock startled and confused. Tenseness was my physical symptom. My angry thought was she being cute or inappropriate. She shouldn’t say things like that to employees even in jest. I am I be too sensitive and to serious.
Spottings- Nervous patients definitely suffer from seriousness. I am a great observer and a poor interpreter. Humor is my best friend and tempers my worst enemy. Who am I that I should get my feelings hurt by something so trivial? I can work this up or down the choice is mine. I can excuse rather than excuse and drop the judgement for the sake of my good mental health.
Before Recovery I would have made this an emergency, I would have told everyone and complained to anyone who would have listen and held it against her, I would have experienced far more symptoms and kept it up for days.
I endorse for being group minded with my co-worker by not complaining, I endorse for being self-led and not symptom-led. I endorsed for posting and making a business and not a game of my good mental health. |
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SandyLane
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Posted - 12/11/2011 : 08:51:18
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Kathleen is entitled to her initial response, which was a startle, but she chose to work down her tempers.
Co-workers can be strong links for us. It is average to have some stress with co-workers.
People do things that annoy us but not necessarily to annoy us.
She was group-minded and chose peace over power by controlling her speech muscles and not complaining.
Our supreme goal is mental health, our supreme value is inner peace, and our supreme effort is self-discipline.
We get well in direct proportion to the amount of discomfort we are willing to bear.
She had the will to effort and the will to bear discomfort and comfort came.
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tad19082
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Posted - 12/11/2011 : 09:10:33
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| self-appointed expectations led to self-induced frustration; Example-giver expected a picnic & got a panic. humor is our best friend, endorse for using it. foreign spot co-worker could've been a nervous person. |
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Flowbo1
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Posted - 12/11/2011 : 15:08:12
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| Kathleen couldn't change the situation, so she changed her attitude towards it. Every act of self-control leads to a sense of self-respect. She gave no outer expression to her inner feelings. She acted in culture, and culture will cure us. She was group-minded to her co-workers by controlling her speech muscles and working it out instead of up. She knew that her symptoms were distressing but not dangerous. Feelings should be expressed, temper suppressed. Kathleen is making her mental health a business and not a game, not only by practicing Recovery with ruthless determination but by sharing her examples in this Forum. Good job, Kathleen. |
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taylormarya
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Posted - 12/11/2011 : 22:20:56
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Good AVERAGE spotting.
Experienced a startle.
People do things to annoy us, NOT to annoy us.
People can be rude, crude and indifferent, often without intent.
Manager is outer environment, and we can't control outer environment only hope to influence it.
We know that we don't know what the manager's intent in her comments were.
Endorse for working the situation down instead of up. Endorse for sharing your example and for making a business of mental health!! |
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anne s.
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Posted - 12/13/2011 : 11:01:46
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| Kathleen controlled her temper and did not let on to co-workers what was said. Firm decision steadies you, reviewing choices is healthy. Much endorsement in this example. Kathleen has come a long way in her recovery training. Work on each separate response of anger or fear, each irritation, frustration and disappointment. It is not people, places or things that give us our symptoms, it is our attitude towards them. |
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Tinkerbell18
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Posted - 08/14/2012 : 12:31:30
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| This was a startle situation. Our original responses may not be amenable to changing, but they are amenable to spotting. Very endorsable that she considered treating the situation with humor rather than temper. People say and do things that annoy us, not necessarily to annoy us. This may be the manager's average. There are no tempers that not uncontrollable, just tempers that were not controlled. She can endorse for not expressing temper. |
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Ninufar
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Posted - 08/14/2012 : 20:29:43
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| Thanks this is a very helpful example of letting go of that excessive sense of responsibility! Kathleen controlled her speech muscles and practiced being a patient patient. |
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WHAT DID SHE JUST SAY?
